It is human nature to want everyone around you to like you. Be it for your talents, your intelligence or even your nature. Unfortunately, we start believing that this acceptance from others defines us. We start relying on their opinions. So much so, that we start tailoring our lives around their expectations. This makes us lose out on who we are and tends to increase stress and worry. So, let it all go and learn how to ensure your well being and establish your own identity.
Keep perspective
Another person’s opinion is always based on their thoughts and belief. Never on yours. Only you know what is best for you and your life. So yours is the only perspective that matters.
Focus on what matters
Focusing on important issues stops you from worrying about what others will think. It helps you at looking at the larger picture.
Most people don’t pay attention
People in general, pay attention to themselves only. If they are giving an opinion on your life, it is probably just in passing and they have not paid you that much thought. So you do you.
You know best
You are the one living your life and facing the consequences of your actions. Hence, you know best. Others haven’t walked your journey, learn to take a call for yourself.
Mind your own business
Stop asking what they think of you. Stop thinking of what people think about you. Especially if they are unsupportive, unhappy or too critical.
Desensitize your triggers
Being over-sensitive is always harmful. Try to control your own thoughts and don’t over-react to what people say to you. Stop overthinking and replace it with positive thoughts.
Seek constructive feedback
You should seek advice from people whom you trust. They will always give you constructive feedback because their intentions for you are pure.
Don’t try to please everyone
It is impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. So it is simply futile trying to do it. Remember, you should live according to your likes and beliefs. People may dislike you for it, but it’s ok. You should love yourself.
Opinions are always changing
Opinions are never constant. So stop wasting time gathering everyone’s positive opinion about you.
Find a role model
You should always have a role model who you look up to and aim to be. This will stop you from becoming a people pleaser.
Life’s too short
At the end of the day, life is too short and you must not waste it trying to please everyone around you. A conscious effort must be made to stop being a people pleaser. Your opinion is the only one that matters.
All the best : )
Worthy words
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