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Let go of jealousy...


Before going further, Let's be clear with the definition of Success.

Success doesn't mean just to achieve money, fame, respect.
Success means to achieve whatever you wish in the right way by being emotionally well.

Now that you are clear with the definition of success, let's move further.

When our mind gets disturbed by others progress and achievements, this unbearable feeling is termed as 'Jealousy'.

People think that it is so natural to get jealous when we see someone who is much better than us.
Let me give you an example.

30 years ago, Blood Pressure/Diabetes is not natural.
But why do we say that it is so natural to get BP/Diabetes now?

20 years ago, Stress is not natural.
But why do doctors say that it is so natural to get stressed now?

Similarly, many years ago, Jealousy is not natural.
But why do we say that it is so natural to get jealous now?

The answer is pretty simple.
BP/Diabetes became more and more common among almost everyone.
Stress became a part of almost everyone's life.
Jealousy developed so much in almost everyone's life.

When the problem is common with almost everyone, we slowly learned to term it as 'Natural'.

We completely forgot the ill effects which it is causing or will cause and started believing that jealousy is so natural.

We have to Pause and Check for a moment.

Our mind got so habituated to think like this-I want to go ahead of someone who is better than me as soon as possible so that I will be successful in my life.
This is a big misconception created by someone.

If the goal is yours,
If the plan is yours,
If the hard work is yours,
If the success you are trying to achieve will be yours,
Then Why should you ruin your mind by seeing others progress?

The problem started because we were not thinking of increasing our own capacity. Instead, we are thinking of being better than other's capacity.
By thinking this way, we are depleting our own capacity.

By creating jealousy in our mind, we develop our ego in such a way that it decreases our willpower and soul power.
When our willpower and soul power decreases, it decreases the efficiency of our performance.

No matter how smart and intelligent you are, there will be always someone who is better than you.
This is a pure fact that must be accepted and remembered all the time.

Even if you succeed by following this harmful route, it's no longer considered 'Success'.
There is no essence of being successful in this way.

Ranks and grades are important but the comparison is limited.
When comparison exceeds its limit, our mind gets disturbed which in turn leads to 'Jealousy'.

Remember, If you want to be successful in any field, you should only compete against yourself.
Externally you may be competing with thousands of people around the globe, but internally your utmost competition should be only 'YOU'.

It's time to teach your mind the new and right way of thinking to achieve real success.

PS. Difficult to start, but not impossible to start.















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